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Don't Just Sit There... Prime for Success!

28 Sep

It’s one thing to dream, and another to bring the dream to life.

Do you struggle in making improvements in your life, building a business or achieving your big dreams? I’d like to share some insight on the most common big challenges and questions, so you can achieve the results you want.

Challenge #1: “I don’t know what my dream is! I like too many things!”

If you’re like me, you don’t have one singular dream. You have a delectable goulash of dreams, and you want to live them all without having to give some up in order to feed “the one.”

Follow what makes you feel alive. Take the time to sit in meditation, and then start doodling. How can Passion A fit in with Passion B? How can you monetize Passion C to support Passion B? And if you have Passions D, E, F, G and even H… how can they all fit together in interesting ways? Think outside the norm. How could a passion for building complex cardboard structures be helpful in feeding a passion for pastries? Only if your passions contradict each other, do they become mutually exclusive (kind of hard to be a chef at McMurdo Station and train dressage horses at the same time)... but there’s no rule that says you can’t squeeze all the juice you want out of one and then move on to the next!

A big part of this challenge is a somewhat misguided quest for perfection. Nobody wants to be seen as a dilletante who knows a little about everything but is a master of nothing, and so they feel pressured to choose one thing and master it (leaving their other dreams languishing from neglect). Then again… what’s wrong with knowing a little here and a little there, and being a lifelong learner?

Get those creative juices flowing and don't put pressure on yourself to find "the one thing." You are not a one-dimentional being but a multi-faceted diamond! Mull over innovative ways to polish each facet in whatever way feels right, until you shine so bright that you need sunglasses!

Challenge #2: “I’m not good enough!”

Yes, you are. You ARE good enough to learn and you can learn as you go. No matter what you’re good at, there are people who are not good at it and they need you... because you're already better at it than they are. But don’t wait until you feel you’re an expert. Learn by doing! You become by doing, not by preparing.

Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hour rule states that it takes 10,000 hours of “deliberate practice” to master a skill. That rule is now officially out the window. A Princeton University study led by Brooke Macnamara conducted a meta-analysis of 88 studies on deliberate practice. Researchers found that deliberate practice is responsible for no more than 26% of performance in games, 21% in music, 18% in sport, 4% in education and a measly 1% in professions!

Practice is important, but it’s only a small percentage of the equation: you can accelerate learning by priming yourself for learning and by using mental rehearsal. What does this mean for you? Less time spent in physical practice and more focus on mentally learning a skill. In other words, you can make becoming excellent at something fit into your lifestyle!

Maintain focus on how you can use what you’re” good at/ natural at happy doing” in a way that will add value to people’s lives.

Help >> deliver results >> build your expertise >> build your reputation >> build your business.

Challenge #3: “I don’t know where to start.”

You’ve probably heard a bazillion times already, “just take the first step.” Well DUH, right? But what the heck is that step? What do I DO?

Do the thing that scares you most. This is the “eat the frog first” theory. Start with the one thing that scares the heck out of you… get it over with… and you’ll build so much confidence and momentum that you will relax into the process, start becoming more aware, listening to your intuition, and boldly acting on opportunities. Even if you blunder for a while, so what? It’s all fun and exciting!

Sure, you can buy a domain name and have a bunch of business cards printed up, but don’t do that until you take that first scary step. Reward yourself with these easy steps!

An example of a terrifying step is calling someone up and asking them to mentor you. In reality, most people are flattered to be asked, and they will be happy to help you! Start spending more time with people who have done what you want to do. Absorb their wisdom and experience. Real-life examples and business models are everywhere. All you need to do is customize what you see in the world, to your unique gift!

Another scary step can be advertising. Many people are terrified of not knowing where to advertise, fearing that they’ll be rejected or that nobody will notice. Super scary! Remind yourself, though, that you have specific talent(s) that others don’t have. Alert your “tribe” of friendly supporters to what you’re doing, help them, and they will spread the word for you!


There’s a lot more to bringing a dream to life than this. START. Inspire yourself to action, and go go go. You can’t lay it all out with perfect clarity and certainty every step of the way so do the thing that scares you first, and then take some educated guesses based on the sponging-up of wisdom and experience you’re doing with your mentors... develop your talents and put them to good use… and believe in yourself and your dream.

Resources for you:

To prime yourself for success, ignite the spark of inspiration, fuel your achievements through happiness, empower yourself and maintain a happy and healthy life balance, I highly recommend the MindPT Monthly Subscription Membership, where you can find targeted MindPT Sessions for every imaginable need - at a two-for-one members-only price!

To boost happiness (the "fuel" for your success, check out Shawn Achor's brilliant OCourse, 21 Days to a Happy Life!


Jarmila Gorman

Jarmila Gorman is an ultra-endurance athlete, mother of two, photographer, self-help writer and entrepreneur. She enjoys sharing the secrets of positive self-talk, motivation, a winning mindset and perseverance. Favorite quote: "Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try." ~ Yoda

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